There is usually a reason that someone is an ex right?
Sometimes things end on good terms, and sometimes they don’t. Either way the fact remains that they are an ex.
So when an ex, hits you up what does “etiquette” ask us to do? Is there an actual set of rules on how to deal with an ex?
If it’s a “clean” breakup are we required to respond, and if it’s a messy one are we right to ignore it?
Does ignoring show a sign of weakness or maturity?
Is there an obligation to see what it is that they want, or is cutting off all communication the best way to go?
Should things like this be discussed immediately after the break up?
What experience tells us is that the answers to these questions depend on not only the messiness or cleanliness of the breakup but your psyche and where you are emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically in relation to that person/relationship.
In the end the only person who can answer these questions is you. You may want to rely on friends but ultimately the decision is yours, and in that way you take ownership of the consequences good, bad, confusing, and ugly.